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Label. (Noun) A piece of fabric, paper, plastic or similar material attach to an object giving information about it. Talking about someone being labeled. I'm definitely not left out in the list of people that are being labeled before in my life. It is different from a characteristics of someone. Usually when someone is being labeled, it is for something bad, whether it is the truth or not. How does it feel? Sucks. So seriously, don't ever label someone, what more for something they aren't. I'm not sure what are the labels that were attached to me, but I'm pretty sure it goes somewhere along the line of 'act cute' or 'act cool'. Please, I don't need to act. But something can be worse than people labeling you - you labeling yourself. It is something very horrible. I've been through it also, and sometimes I still do it to myself too. Why is it worse than people labeling you? Because it is what you think about yourself. Sometimes when people say label you and you can tell yourself that "No, I am not what they say" and then you push their words and labels away. But when you start to label yourself, you are setting a boundary for yourself. I'll be honest here, what label do I always tag myself with.. 'too young', 'different' (in a bad way), 'all-girls environment'. These are the top 3 I sometimes tell myself in my head. These labels creates a boundary for me, a boundary from what I can do, from what I WANT to do. Do you know how horrible that feels? Thankfully for me, it depends on my mood most of the time. If I'm in a good mood, probably I won't label myself and do things with the "why not?" mindset. But when things get bad, I'll turn back into these labels again. Also, people's label on me doesn't affect me, so that's something good, I suppose :) Anyway, back to what I was saying, being labeled by others sucks, but labeling yourself is simply pathetic. How can you even think so lowly of yourself, it really speaks a lot about your own self-esteem. This is exactly how I feel about myself sometimes. When I know things get really bad, I always tell myself "I am loved. I am the child of God." or sometimes during worship, the Holy Spirit would tell me and remind me again that I AM LOVED. Even for my labels. These words sometimes help, and sometimes it doesn't. I don't have an ultimate solution to it cause I still struggle with it. But do comment if you know how? ;) Also, I'm trying not to label people. Because I am not them, I don't know why they behave like this, I don't know why they are like this. Those people who appear to be the most confident all have their fears. Those people who seems popular probably... feels lonely too. |